You may be struggling with trying to figure out what’s important in your life.  Wondering – what are my desires? Goals? Am I emotionally okay? Am I being the best version of myself that I can be?  You are in the right place if this is what you have been wondering. Let’s dive in and see if we can help you further.

What does it mean to show up for yourself?

We’ve all heard this phrase about “showing up for yourself” but very few people actually know what it means or how to get there.  Honoring your authentic self and making choices that promote your physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional well-being are examples of showing up for yourself.  It involves figuring out who you are, what matters to you, and what you want.  Although there are many important things to consider, the first step is having the will to find the solutions and the courage to move towards them.  The secret to your health and any healing path you may be on is showing up for yourself.

Are you overwhelmed?

If you are uncertain, it’s legitimate to feel overwhelmed, but remember that you don’t need to have everything figured out right away.  Just take a deep breath, let go of the guilt and worry about where you need to be, and just be in the current moment.  Write down short, little and attainable goals and slowly work on them.  Remember if you fail, at least you are trying and tomorrow is a new day – new beginning.

How do you start showing up for yourself?

The first stage is to become conscious.  Before we can make decisions that move us in the correct direction, we must be conscious.  Reading this blog, and being conscious of how you treat yourself is the first step!  Be aware of your own voice in your head and the everything you are telling yourself.  Being conscious of how you are spending your time, what you eat, how you are moving your body, and how you feel self consciously on a daily basis.  When we self-sabotage, we must be aware of our behaviors and thoughts since they are a dynamic process that guide our decision-making at various stages of our lives.

The second stage is to have compassion for ourselves.  Depending on what you are juggling psychologically and emotionally in our modern society, it can be easy to drop the ball on occasions.  We tend to beat ourselves up and put ourselves in mental torture.  Give yourself some compassion and know that it’s okay to make a mistake. You are human!  Mistakes happen, we learn from them and we grow.  Stop beating yourself up and show yourself some compassion.

The third stage is to create a plan. Make showing up for yourself your priority. Make time for yourself by engaging in a daily (or at least weekly) self-indulgent activity that helps you connect with yourself and learn more about who you are and what you desire.  Journal about what your short term and long term goals are, ask yourself how you can take better care of yourself and jot them down in your journal, and also write down some things that you can tell yourself positively when those negative thoughts start to creep in your head. Creating this plan of action will help you focus on these desires even though life is busy around us.  This will help with making positive choices.

The last stage is putting that plan into action.  Take all the actions that you planned in your journal and implement them into your daily life. Talk to a therapist. Stop the negative self-talk.  Take a yoga class you have been eyeing the past few months.  Read that book that you have been meaning to read.  Take a nature walk and enjoy the world around you. Life is worth living happily!  So, take the steps to live a fulfilling life.

You are worthy of being shown up for and your individuality matters.  Sometimes just in accepting this as a priority and bringing focus and intention towards yourself, you can begin the process of showing up for yourself.  Give me a call if you are struggling with this and I can help with getting the process started.